Distinguishing between Types of Domestic Violence

first_imgBy Kacy Mixon, M.S., LMFTJohnson, M.P. (2008). A typology of domestic violence: Intimate terrorism, violence resistance, and situational couple violence. Lebanon, NH: Northeastern University Press.Michael P. Johnson (2008), in his book A typology of domestic violence: Intimate terrorism, violent resistance, and situational couple violence, highlights various types of domestic violence and the relationship dynamics involved in each.  The book also attempts to dismantle over-generalizations that occur when research on domestic violence looks at it as a single phenomenon. Johnson adds:“Family violence theorists, studying primarily situational couple violence, insist that women are as violent as men in intimate relationships; they present evidence from general survey to back up their theoretical arguments (p. 3)” [1].When no consideration is placed on the possibility that two different phenomenon are being researched– situational couple violence and intimate terrorism—results can provide a muddled picture of domestic violence. Johnson proposes that looking at domestic violence from a more holistic, typological framework sheds light onto what we know and don’t know–or need to continue researching.What does this mean for Military Professionals?Different types of domestic violence call for different types of prevention and intervention strategies, as evidence points to different causes connected to the various types. Understanding various types of domestic violence, and subsequent relationship dynamics connected to these types, can better equip us to work with couples and families. Below are types of domestic violence and their identifying characteristics [1, 2, 3].Johnson, M.P. (2008). A typology of domestic violence: Intimate terrorism, violence resistance, and situational couple violence. Lebanon, NH: Northeastern University Press.Stay tuned for our next blog where we discuss assessment and intervention for the various types of domestic violence…References[1] Johnson, M.P. (2008). A typology of domestic violence: Intimate terrorism, violence resistance, and situational couple violence. Lebanon, NH: Northeastern University Press.[2] Holtzworth-Munroe, A., Meehan, J.C., Herron, K., Stuart, G.L. (1999). A typology of male batterers: An initial examination. In Violence in Intimate Relationships, Ximena B. Arriaga & Stuart Oskamp (Eds.) 45-72. Thousand Oaks, CA: Sage.[3] Jacobson, N.S., Gottman, J.M. (1998). When men batter: New insights into ending abusive relationships. New York, NY: Simon & Schuster.This post was written by Kacy Mixon, M.S., LMFT, Social Media Specialist.  She is a member of the MFLN Family Development (FD) team which aims to support the development of professionals working with military families. Find out more about the Military Families Learning Network FD concentration on our website, on Facebook, on Twitter, YouTube, and on LinkedIn.last_img read more

The Small Screen of Infinite Distractions

first_imgYesterday, I did a keynote speech with Jeb Blount. A keynote is normally one person speaking, but the client asked us to speak together to close out their conference. So we got together and built a little slide deck and decided to sit on stools and take turns speaking.It took a lot of trust, but we decided that when one of us finished speaking, they’d just stop talking, and the other person would just start speaking. There was no weird, repetitive handoff, like “Jeb, what do you think?” It worked perfectly.Listen Up NowOne of the points we hammered home was the importance of listening. We were driving home ideas about how you treat people, and how poor treatment makes people feel unimportant, like they are a transaction. While Jeb was sharing how critical it is to look people in the eye, to listen deeply to what isn’t being said, and to focus all of your attention on the person speaking, I took out my cell phone and started flipping through screens, ignoring Jeb and ignoring the audience of 500 people. When Jeb finished speaking, I didn’t say anything. I waited an uncomfortably long time, until Jeb said, “Anthony?“I looked up and asked our audience how bad that felt having someone who was supposed to be deeply engaged with them deeply engaged with his phone instead. I asked them if they felt insulted while I was busy ignoring them, and if they felt unimportant. They agreed that the experience was awful for them. And they agreed that they use a different screen, but that they don’t always give their clients their full attention because they are busy on a screen.Look Up NowThis is what we do now. This is who we are becoming.We have an individual in front of us who needs our full attention, and we instead look at the small screen of infinite distractions.We have a chance to connect with people who are important to us—and to our business—and we ignore them, choosing instead to pay attention to people who are far away from us.We act as if we might miss something on the Internet, even though nothing disappears from the Internet while the opportunity to connect with a real person does.We fear the wrong danger.The people who are able to exercise the self-control necessary to give another person their full attention are going to have a commanding advantage over the people with crooked necks who can’t pull themselves away from the small screen of infinite distractions. Get the Free eBook! Learn how to sell without a sales manager. Download my free eBook! You need to make sales. You need help now. We’ve got you covered. This eBook will help you Seize Your Sales Destiny, with or without a manager. Download Nowlast_img read more